Hi, my name is Dr. Annye Rothenberg. I have been a licensed child/parent psychologist for over 25 years. I specialize in counseling parents with common but challenging child rearing problems focusing on babies through 10 year olds. In order to help more people, I have been writing a series of books. The first six focus on 3, 4 and 5 year-olds. Now, I have started a new series for kindergarten through third graders. The books for preschoolers as well as those for elementary school children all have a story for children and a manual for parents that show how to work through these child rearing issues. What I describe in my books are time-proven methods that I have used in successfully helping over 2,000 families. If you have any of these issues, you'll find the books helpful. Also included for you on this web site are many articles on everyday child rearing concerns. I invite you to enjoy this site. 

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The Second Book in the Elementary School Series (Just Published)

The second book in this series for four to nine-year -olds is Mom and Dad Are Always So Busy. It helps parents and children find the best ways to spend time together.

"This newest book by Dr. Rothenberg is a detailed and practical guide for busy working parents on how to juggle their commitments to their job and more importantly, how to foster a meaningful connection with their children and nurture that relationship for many years to come. This book has many specifics for parents from how to talk to their children in a respectful, empathetic manner so their children will feel connected, to how to set the daily routine in the household so all family members can work together seamlessly. I strongly recommend this book to all busy parents — stay-at-home or working outside the home — and to all the professionals who guide them."


−   Emily Ting, M.D., Pediatrician and mother of three children, Redwood City, CA

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First Book in the Elementary School Series

The first book for kindergarten to third graders is Why Can't I Be the Boss of Me? It helps children understand why they can't just have their way. And parents will learn why their children think they can. It gives the steps to take so children can accept the leadership role of their parents while enabling the child's reasoning and decision making skills to grow.

“Dr. Annye Rothenberg has done it again. She has created a colorful, engaging story about an eight-year-old boy who is used to ruling the roost. She guides parents to adopt a less permissive and more leader-like approach to child-rearing, and at the same time, teaches children that households are calmer and happier when parents are in charge. Parents who struggle with getting their child to behave appropriately will find valuable words of wisdom from this experienced child psychologist.
−    Mary Ann Zetes, M.D. Pediatrician and parent, Altos Pediatrics, Los Altos, CA

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I'm Getting Ready for Kindergarten

Preschoolers' Series

The sixth book in this series is I'm Getting Ready For Kindergarten. The children's story and the comprehensive parent guidance section answer all your questions and your child's, and cover every area parents need to know to help their children really be ready for the demands of today's kindergarten.

“This is a must-read for every family! Dr. Rothenberg's amazing book helps parents answer the question, “What can I do to prepare my child for kindergarten?” with the complete guidelines for parents. As the principal for both our preschool and elementary school, I am excited to have a book that ensures a positive start to kindergarten for the whole family.”
−    Christine Shales, MPA; Principal, Merry Moppet Preschool & Belmont Oaks Academy, Belmont, CA

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I Want To Make Friends

The fifth book in the series, I Want To Make Friends, shows how young children can make friends and be a good friend. Through a story for children and a comprehensive parent guidance section, kids and parents will learn the basics of friendship as well as how to deal with common peer problems, such as bossiness, teasing, aggression and being reserved, self-conscious or thin-skinned.

I Want To Make Friends is a wonderfully written and much-needed resource. As she does in her previous four books, Dr. Rothenberg includes a practical parents’ guide as well as an engagingly illustrated story for children that shows what a child has to do to become a good friend. Parents will learn how a child’s personality and experiences shape his or her social skills. The valuable suggestions and concrete examples for parents will be effective as they help their children develop friendships. This is a well- thought-out book on a topic of frequent concern. I'm eager to recommend it to my patients and their families.”
- Eileen Chan, MD; Pediatrician, parent, and Co-Founder, Pediatric Wellness Group, Redwood City, CA

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I Don't Want To Go To The Toilet

The fourth book in the series, I Don't Want To Go To The Toilet deals with the challenges of toilet training young children who are uninterested, reluctant, resistant, or fearful of the toilet. Through a story about a child who doesn't want to stop playing to go pee pee and a second story about a child who doesn't want to have his poop in the toilet, these children's lack of interest and worries are successfully addressed. The parent guidance section covers the complete process of toilet training and how to resolve the problematic issues.

“In this fourth book of her parenting series, Dr. Rothenberg tackles toilet training. As always, she does this with sound practical advice and a dose of good humor. This book is valuable because Dr. Rothenberg couples developmentally appropriate principles with practical tools. Among the many guides for toilet training, this book is unique because it sets the stage for cooperation between kids and parents through its two engaging children’s stories (peeing and pooping). The parents’ section provides a treasure trove of advice for what to expect, what to say, and what to do to make the process not only more fun, but also more likely to succeed.”
- Mary Ann Carmack, M.D., Ph.D. Chair, Pediatrics Department, Palo Alto Medical Foundation, Palo Alto, CA

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Why Do I Have To?  - Annye Rothenberg

The third book in the series, I Like To Eat Treats, excites and educates 3 to 6 year olds about healthy foods effectively impacting their understanding of nutrition in ways they'll remember. The parenting section shows the right balance of foods, how to motivate healthy eating, staying at the table, and much more.

“The content of this book is wonderful! This is one book that all parents of young children should read to their children, with the perfect take-home message for both. It’s the best of both worlds – an entertaining book for children that successfully introduces them to healthy eating and an informed guide for parents that points out the challenges that food issues can create. The book walks parents through solutions that are easy to apply and will get them securely on the right track. A great resource for health-minded parents and educators.”
- Marilyn Tanner-Blasiar, MHS, RD, LD Spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association and Pediatric Dietitian, Washington University School of Medicine and St. Louis Children’s Hospital, St. Louis, MO


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Why Do I Have To?  - Annye Rothenberg

The second book in the series, Why Do I Have To?, helps young children understand why there are so many rules and that parents make rules because they love their kids. It is an endearing and warmly illustrated story. The parenting manual teaches how young children think, the most age-appropriate ways to help children cooperate with the rules, and provides new and more effective consequences to motivate their children.

“Annye Rothenberg’s books are the closest things to a users’ manual for parents.”
- Peggy Spear, Editor, Bay Area Parent Magazine

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Why Do I Have To?  - Annye Rothenberg

Mommy and Daddy Are Always Supposed to Say Yes... Aren't They? provides the latest thinking on exactly how much say and choice to give young children, and shows how to regain the right balance if your kids have too much control. The book includes both an entertaining and valuable story for young children and a clarifying, practical parenting manual.

 “This is one book that could change your life. This unique children’s story and the parents’ guide teach a strong, respectful approach that is neither too permissive nor too controlling. Preschoolers will thrive with this kind of direction from the adults in their lives – and everyone will be the happier for it.”
- Alan Greene, MD, FAAP; Pediatrician; Clinical Faculty, Stanford University School of Medicine; founder, DrGreene.com

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In addition to the the published books, Dr. Annye Rothenberg has written a series of articles to help parents with many common parenting concerns. Please click on the titles shown to see the full article.

User’s Manual for Parents

Trusting Parenting Advice

Parenting Myths Solutions that Stick


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